Everyone has some bad memories which he or she will not like to live with. Some of the common bad memories are car accidents, rapes, natural disasters, fights with a spouse, assaults, experiences of war and so on. Some of these memories cause trauma and problems to people later in life.
Ordinarily, there is no way you can get rid of both the bad and the good experiences in life because our brains are programmed to remember. In fact, sometimes the more you try to forget some bad memories the more you remember. Your past is part of you whether you like it or not. You can only hide it and it will hunt you later or tackle it and it will shrink away. With this you will be able to know that avoidance is not an option. To make life easy and comfortable, you have to learn the possible way to deal with problems.
NLP is a natural life changing therapy that will help you deal with your bad memories. It is going to teach you the secrets to handling those haunting memories and the best way to move on. According to NLP, tackling your problems changes your life. It will expose you to so many things you never expected before. You are more likely to make new close relationships, but mostly, you will be whole again, because you cant be whole when your conscious is living without your subconscious. And your subconscious wont be ignored.
So how can I dissolve bad memories with NLP?
Identify your triggers
According to NLP, memories are cue-dependent, that are associated to triggers. Your bad memories are not constantly in your head. Sometimes your present environment or the things in your environment reminds you of your bad experience. Some memories are associated to some triggers like images, smells, loud noises, particular songs and so on. You as an individual should identify the trigger to your bad memories. When you consciously recognize a trigger then you have achieved the preliminary aspect of dissolving your bad memory.
Suppress the negative association
Identifying your trigger will help you know your reminder before working on it. After the identification, you will try and subdue the negative association. Suppressing the trigger will help you break the link. This is done by interrupting yourself any time you are thinking about your bad memories. Shut down your painful memories as soon as it starts. When you do this for several weeks or months, your neural connection that makes you remember your bad memories will be subdued and your brain will be trained not to remember the negative past. Also, re-associating your trigger with a safe and positive experiences also contributes to breaking link between your trigger and your negative memory. If a particular song reminds you of break-up, you have to try to link that particular song to your graduation party, so you can be able to subdue what you feel when the song is playing.
Enrich your positive experience
Too often you spend minutes, and sometimes hours and days, thinking about your negative experiences but you gloss over the positive experience. NLP encourages you to deepen your positive experiences. Devote more time to your positive experiences rather than wasting your time ruminating on your bad experiences. Fill the inner part of your life with positive memories. Think more about those sweet fantasies and those experiences that will always make you smile. This will help you move on despite all odds.
With this practices, you will soon be enjoying a life that is devoid of bad memories.